Playing Mind Games

Too damned true. I see evidence of this daily, in many variations, both online and off. When you recognize it and point it out, note the reactions / responses of your so-called ‘friends’ and ‘acquaintances,’ and adjust accordingly!
(It isn’t always in a ‘romantic’ sense!)

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  1. Linda
    Jun 15, 2016 @ 15:25:26

    I have actually met a person like this. Strange and frightening…I had to cut ties. I feel like I dodged a bullet.

  2. wwwpalfitness
    Jun 17, 2016 @ 15:34:55

    I am living it with two of them and they both play me as middle and now I am getting kicked out. Plus when I am out he will possess her totally and she will be screwed and I would love to be a fly on the wall to see the suffering for all they made me lose and grief added to health.

    • sepultura13
      Jun 17, 2016 @ 18:10:27

      I would have gotten out ASAP – nothing is worth living with that sort of sickness, even good sex or eye candy.
      Narcissists are only out for themselves…if you get played once, that’s one thing. If you let them get over on you because you like the “friends with benefits” lie / bullshit, then…

      People hate me because I believe in personal accountability…it is what it is.

      • wwwpalfitness
        Jun 17, 2016 @ 18:40:18

        This is different, this is one of my 2 family members besides their kids. She is mental, a narcissist and slowly I lost more of me, business, health, her always putting me down, I have 3 state records set in 7th grade and she was delusional enough to say my coach said she was better than me as she finished last in every race, almost no working all year and barely scraping bills and no car. I stayed hoping things would look up and they just got worse and her bf is a worse liar. He said yesterday a deadbolt couldn’t be fixed. I said shut up, relax and you are using a powertool and you will get it done as when I relaxed it got done. 30 minutes later, still talking shit. I said hey I told you what YOU said was unfixable as you whined like a little baby and YOU proved me right. He still denies stalking me. He lied as to how he found my site to blame cps. Cps is not allowed to do background checks unless felony charges have been at the locale and they are not allowed to surf social media. He still lies. Plus he told another bold faced lie, he said you could have waited your sister would have gotten me keys. Mind you she found them and he told her to give to him to throw out. So, she wasn’t getting me keys. Now I am trapped worse. He taught her to pick locks. I am getting a webcam and when she comes in my room, she goes to jail. He also said he found my blog putting my name in and town, ehh 4th page on google, thanks for lying.

      • sepultura13
        Jun 18, 2016 @ 07:35:19

        I would have cut ties with that person ages ago…sometimes, you have to love family from a distance – a HUGE distance!
        Unless you’re dependent on her for housing, I can’t imagine why you put up with this for so long.

      • wwwpalfitness
        Jun 18, 2016 @ 10:16:19

        I agree with you. It was situational. We both had gotten married and our mother passed. The younger sister got pg and moved in moved in with her. That was a 3 year disaster. Both of us went through our separations at the same time. I couldn’t afford housing myself as it is very expensive here and landlords for a 2 br ask for close to 5k to move in and around 3500 for a studio. I couldn’t pull that and she had two babies needing watching. That made me unable to take certain morning ppl and nobody works out mid day. I mean I have had to middle of the day clients in a decade. I apply for other things and get things here and there. For her to have someone or a kids place would cost 600 plus a week, so it turned into a barter. Things got bad after my accident as she did not want me picking them up from school as they lost bus privileges and she paid someone else to and it went downhill from there all with petty stuff, her making out of a molehill that would get worked out and then there was a fake cps call and that was 4 months ago and cleared weeks later. Though that went alright her bf pressed her to get me out or he would not move in with her. He said to both of us when they get a new place I am not welcome. I have not had a car in 2 years do to the hit and run accident and a lot of injuries that will not heal themselves.Plus I have CFS and all of it’s other stuff, 12 slipped discs, 2 total tears of multiple parts of both shoulders. But in two years, knowing I ride everywhere she never asked if I need to go food shopping or anywhere. 2xs she saw me on the road and gave me a ride. That is all she did. I routinely would ask if she needed anything even though I am wearing a pack on my back. It is not getting worse but recently I had a bad flare up that has surgery, multiple ones, imminent and a hr that goes over 200.

      • sepultura13
        Jun 18, 2016 @ 12:38:18

        I escaped an abusive husband within 5 years…and yes, I’ve had physical issues as well – so, I guess it all chalks up to what you choose to accept in life.

        When a place is too expensive to live on your own, it’s time to go somewhere else.

        And I don’t know where you live, where “nobody works out mid-day.” That was the only time I had to work out, during my busy schedule of raising my son, working one full-time job, and two part-time jobs, in the middle of dealing with my ex-husband’s incessant, needless court dates.
        I despised gyms, so having a personal trainer who could help me at my work-place gym would have been awesome.
        You live in the wrong part of the country, my friend! The U.S. west coast is dying for trainers who can do sessions from 11 am – 2 pm on weekdays!
        C’est la vie

      • wwwpalfitness
        Jun 18, 2016 @ 14:56:13

        In the last two years the only people that wanted midday were 20 miles from me. I dropped prices in half advertising daily in my living area. i got one person 3 years ago. I would get tons in the city but that’s 22 bucks on the train and a 3 hour commute. When i lived with my wife practically in Queens I had lots of people midday. I had a car and I also coached. Only two months ago my sister said I did not have to watch the kids. The school up the block from me was hiring 4 months ago. I would have loved that but I was not given that option until mid to late April. The clients I get see 25 dollar trainers and those are kids. I have not received a new client in a good while. Parties I would work called the day before and it would be day time and I could not take a 6 hr gig in the city leaving at 10am and being home around 9pm as it gave my sister no time to get coverage and she would take a cut of my money. Oh I am really wanting to move to CA, my ex and I were going to. If we did I would be working all the time year round. NY is funny, most in the city. I am in the burbs. Now it is about making money, hopefully lucky and I will move to CA. I would do great there. I would have to be doing better physically. I had 2 nuclear heart tests in 2 weeks, an echo cardiogram and a few other tests and I am not doing so well the past few months. But living in Suffolk County won’t happen again unless I am forced while building a nest egg and either CA LV or Phoenix. 15 years ago I was getting 100 an hour in Western nassau and coaching year round. I have to build up. I will, however and whenever I leave here, she will never hear from me at all. I have her blocked on social media and you can’t block but comments on WP. If I am dying she will not hear from me and I will change my number and my other sister is being cut off too,. I had a grandfather I trained his horses while he was ill and he paid me 1/6th of what I should have gotten, then we moved away. I have been asking friends in racing if they are hiring occasionally. In between messaging you last I had to ride slowly 2 miles and stop 3xs and 4 on the way back as my heart rate is through the roof. They said this can happen for a couple of weeks. I go again Tuesday and will now go to another nuclear test. Basically my hr goes so high, resting 65-95 for years I have P.O.T.S. Syndrome and the stress tests that are nuclear are supposed to raise it then it raised it after and since. The next one is supposed to get me to 180 to see it in full flight. But going 90-200 can cause a widow maker and happens with athletes often.

      • sepultura13
        Jun 18, 2016 @ 17:53:39

        Narcissism runs in families, from my observations…

      • wwwpalfitness
        Jun 18, 2016 @ 20:57:23

        I have seen it in families but the added sociopath makes it worse. The double header of blabbing and not listening and having no merit is scary. My sister and her bf are both. My younger sister is a sociopath. I am just me. I have been a lot, done quite a lot (former world record holder, 3xs all american in lifting) Can’t count records and county champs with state records. When I coached I had a lot of kids never win a thing but they always tried hard. I had a team with 110 kids, 30 never got a medal ever. I awarded them medals that were dear to me. Even after this shit I am going through, while I am here, if something happened like a fire or a break in I would still protect them. But what do I know in her warped perception of reality, history and things she doesn’t know but swears on them. It is seriously annoying.

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